Archive for April 2009

She’s a Winner!

April 18, 2009

Well, today Eileen ran her first ever 5k (3.1 mile) race.

This all started a few months back when it struck me as a good idea to begin running in some races, with the goal of eventually running the Myrtle Beach ½ Marathon next February.

Eileen, being the good natured person, and great wife that she is, said she’d join me on race days and do the 5k’s. Keep in mind that at that point she wasn’t running on a regular basis. But, she stuck by her plans and kept increasing her distance until 3 weeks ago when I had my heart attack.

With that news, I am out of any races for the foreseeable future. But, she persisted and said she’d continue with her plan. However, I was not helping her with her running routine. There was the week in the hospital followed by the fact that I can’t mow the lawn and other things she has to tend to around the house. Her conditioning has been severely impeded. She still ran sporadically once or twice a week.

She never did get up to running three miles – until today.

She boarded the shuttle to the starting point and I took up my place with camera in hand at the finish line and waited.

As you can see from the picture below, she did a great. She ran the entire length of the course. “I almost cried at the end,” she said. “Why,” I asked. She replied, “Because I was running for both of us.”

And I almost cried at that.

Way to go girl, and you’re always a winner with me.


Understanding & Love

April 14, 2009

One of the projects I was working on the past few weeks was a presentation for the NC Sheriff’s Chaplains Association on encouraging law enforcement officers to give attention to their family life.

One of the verses which deals with the relationship between husbands and wives is I Peter 3:7 which says “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.”

“Dwell with them with understanding.” Interesting. I also found it interesting that in the famous “Love Chapter” of the Bible, I Corinthians 13 in verses 9-12 speak of understanding. So, obviously love and understanding are linked together.

As a husband, in order to understand my wife, I must find out what “makes her tick.” Better stated, what are her needs? As I discover those needs, and help meet those which I can – security, affirmation, assurance she senses my love for her.

Love which is driven by the need of the other person is exactly the kind of love we are shown by Christ. Yet, so often in this world we are caught up in the “what can you do for me?” kind of love.

So guys, listen to your wife. In her words, what needs does she express? Learn how you can help meet those needs and love her by doing your very best to do those very things. You will bring honor to her and enhance your own prayer life.

Ladies, print this out and give it your husband J


Are YOU Still Here?

April 10, 2009

After last week’s heart attack episode, a lot of people have said something like “God must have more for you to do,” or “God must not be finished with you yet.”

I’ve given that a lot of thought, and I’d like to share a little about those thoughts. First, let me point out these thoughts are everyday musings, not some product of a “death bed” experience. No brightly lit tunnels, no visions – just some discomfort in my chest followed by a great deal of medical activity, followed by a protected period of time of thinking.

The truth is God does have more for me to do in this life. Not because I’m a pastor, or a mentor, or a teacher – but because I am His child. In fact, His list for me today is the same as it was the day before the heart attack. I was certainly surprised by that event – but God wasn’t.

He knew what March 30, 2009 would hold for me the day I was born, the day I was saved, the day I was married, the day I became a father.

And – He knows all that about you as well. So, while it is true God has more for me to do – the same thing is true for you. Why are YOU still here? There is a reason, because God makes no mistakes.

My prayer for you is that will find that purpose and live wide open as long as He allows.

God’s Goodness and Goals

April 6, 2009

I’ve written a couple of times about setting, and revising goals.

Remember, goals should be measurable, realistic and challenging. As with all other areas of life, we should always be observing to see if those goals need to be revised. At times we will make more rapid progress than we might have expected when we first started out. Then, there will be times when our resources are restricted or something else happens which causes us to rest our goals.

Such is the case with my running goals post heart attack. I won’t know for sure until my follow-up tests but the 5k in 2 weeks is definitely out, as is the 10k in May.

So for this point in my running life, my verse is Isaiah 40:31 “But those who wait on the LORD Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint.”

I thank God for His goodness, and for now I will walk, then I’ll run. And each day He will renew my strength.

Thank God for the Heart Institute

April 5, 2009

As a result of my heart attack, I spent the better part of last week at the East Carolina Heart Institute. Thank God for this wonderful facility. But, even more thank God for the great staff. Unfortunately, I can’t remember the name of the nurses who cared for me at first, but God knows who they are and how thankful I am for them. The names I remember are Chastity, Bren, Claire, Erika, Charlsie, and “Van”.

Drs. Tan & Wood were my primary care cardiologists and Drs. Diamond and Meara were the residents who looked after me while I was there.

It was clear that not only were they caring for me, but they also cared about me – that, you can’t pay for.

At the Heart of the matter

April 3, 2009

This past Monday, I ran 3.5 miles. It felt pretty good, as opposed to the past couple of weeks, when I felt sluggish.

IMMEDIATELY, after I finished running, I felt a pressure in my chest that was unfamiliar. It wasn’t terrible, but it was uncomfortable.


It eased off, then returned, then eased off again. A co-worker said I looked pale, but my blood pressure and pulse were good.


I went to my family physician and he did an EKG, I was having a heart attack. I was taken by ambulance to one hospital, transferred to a helicopter and taken to the new Heart Center at Pitt Memorial Hospital.


They put a stent in and I was in my room in Cardiac ICU around 9 pm. I thank God for the prayers of friends, family, church family and as my future daughter-in-law put it “random people” she asked to pray for me.


I feel great, the prognosis is wonderful and I gathered a few sermon illustrations along the way. I came home today and I will post more a little later. For now, it is time for a rest J